Time’s Up on harassment and inequality. Those words echo’d loudly during the Oscar’s this year and prompted a conversation between my husband and I that I can’t stop thinking about.
I identified all too well with the #metoo movement. As a college student interning at a local country radio station, I was sexually harassed. I reported it, followed all the correct protocols and was ultimately told by the executives of the radio station that I needed to suck it up and get used to it because it was a “boys club”. That incident turned me away from my dream of becoming a sports broadcaster – something I had wanted my entire life. And that wasn’t the last incident throughout my career.
So, when we started talking about the Time’s Up movement, it’s understandable that I get a little passionate. What I didn’t expect was seeing this movement through my husband’s eyes.
What about the good guys?
I married one of the good guys. In fact, he’s pretty amazing. He’s a true partner and treats me with so much respect and unconditional love. He’s an amazing father to our two young daughters. Around the house, he does all the heavy lifting and folds countless loads of laundry. It’s understandable that he could feel a little on the defensive. I know my place in the Time’s Up movement, as a woman, a mother, an entrepreneur but what about the good guys? Where is their place in all this?
Moving the movement
I identify as an ally for gay rights. Love is love. It’s simple. This feels so much more complicated but I believe there is a place for the guys who have our back. It’s important that their voices are heard because they’re the ones doing it right. How do we, as women, looking to take our activism and turn it into action, include the good guys on this journey? I don’t know if there is a right answer to this but I think it’s important that we bring them along.